Overview
The way we connect with others the way we trust, love, fight, withdraw, and reach for closeness is shaped long before we have words for it. Our earliest relationships teach us whether the world is safe, whether people can be relied on, and whether we are worthy of love. When those early lessons were painful through neglect, inconsistency, loss, abuse, or simply not being truly seen they leave a blueprint that follows us into every relationship we form as adults.
Always waiting for people to leave, pushing others away before they can hurt you, or clinging tightly just to feel safe in relationships.
Loving someone who is physically there but emotionally out of reach and learning to shrink yourself to survive that distance.
You want intimacy and connection, but when you actually get close to someone, something in you panics, shuts down, or finds a reason to pull back.
Growing up without the emotional presence you needed leaving you feeling invisible, unworthy, or like your needs were never quite enough to matter.
The painful experiences from early life that quietly shape how you love, trust, and see yourself long after childhood is over.
You’ve read the books, you understand the theory, you can name your attachment style. And yet the patterns persist. Understanding alone isn’t always enough.
My Value
Attachment wounds don’t heal through information alone. They heal through experience, through the lived, felt experience of being in a consistent, safe, attuned relationship where your needs are taken seriously and you don’t have to earn care. The therapeutic relationship itself becomes part of the healing process.
Using ego state and inner child work alongside EMDR and attachment-focused therapy, I go beneath the surface-level patterns to the parts of you that learned early on what love and safety looked like, and help those parts learn something new. The changes you make here ripple outward into every relationship in your life.
I begin by building a clear picture of your relational world your history, your current relationships, the patterns that keep repeating
Using ego state and inner child work, I get curious about the younger parts of you that formed these patterns in the first place .
Through EMDR, attachment-focused therapy, and experiential work, I process the experiences that shaped your attachment wounds and begin building new internal models .
Insight in the therapy room has to translate into your actual relationships. I focus on how the changes you’re making show up in your daily life .
Get Started Today
Attachment patterns were built over years and changing them takes more than insight. My process is intentional, layered, and paced around your readiness. I move carefully, because this work touches some of the most tender and formative parts of who you are.
Healing attachment wounds often means revisiting the past with gentleness and curiosity. Through inner child work, Jessica helps you reconnect with the younger parts of yourself that learned to cope with neglect, emotional unavailability, and fear of abandonment. This work goes hand in hand with trauma therapy, addressing the deeper relational patterns that have followed you into adult relationships. If you’re ready to start, get in touch to schedule a consultation.
FAQs
Attachment and relational patterns can feel deeply ingrained like they’re just “who you are.” They’re not. They’re learned responses that can be understood, worked with, and genuinely changed. If you have questions about what this process looks like, the answers below are a starting place.
Both. Most of the people I work with in this area come individually not as part of a couple because the attachment work I do is fundamentally about your internal world and your relationship with yourself.
Attachment theory describes how our earliest bonds typically with parents or caregivers shape the internal models we carry into adulthood about safety, love, and connection.
Ego state therapy (also called parts work) recognizes that we all have different “parts” of ourselves often formed at different stages of development — that carry different beliefs, emotions, and needs.
Yes, I'm in network with Aetna, United healthcare and Anthem
The patterns that have been driving your relationships weren’t your fault. But they are yours to change, and with the right support, that change is genuinely possible. Reach out for a free, no-pressure consultation and let’s talk about what working together could look like.
Whether you have questions, want to learn more about a specific service, or are ready to schedule a consultation, this is the right place to start. There’s no pressure and no commitment, just a conversation.
Online attachment therapy sessions are available throughout New York and Connecticut via secure telehealth.
